tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43817648745455794922024-03-05T12:05:27.891-08:00some little momentsIf you have a novel to write you will write it & it will cost you your life if it is worth writing --Praeder's LettersAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-5503235161017687832015-10-11T18:56:00.001-07:002015-10-11T19:04:11.152-07:00Lessons From My Horse, Part 2<div dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-9527715824093196002014-06-27T22:25:00.002-07:002014-07-23T14:29:47.098-07:00Lessons From My Horse, Part 1<div class="p1">
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<span class="s1">Training a horse especially when you've never trained one before, is challenging for a very specific reason. The horse can't speak. She can't understand English. And I can't speak horse. And yet, horses can be taught to do the most incredible things. Why? Because horses can learn from non verbals. In fact, that's the only way to teach them. And they learn surprisingly fast. They learn so fast, that you better know what you're doing before you ask them to do it or you could end up teaching something you have to un-teach and fix at a later date. Like, next week when you realize you didn’t mean what you taught. Or is it that you didn’t teach what you meant? </span></div>
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<span class="s1">Working with a horse has taught me a lot about action. I can stand in the middle of the round pen and look at my horse and say, "Okay, it's time to lunge,” (which means exercising on a lead rope in a circle around the trainer) and she'll just stand there and look at me. But if I step to the right so I'm in line with her hip and simultaneously move my left hand, with the lead rope in it, out and point to the left, she'll instinctively start walking. I don't have to say a word. I may train her to understand the words "walk," "trot," "run," but she will only understand those words because they were connected to non verbals as she trained. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">Working with my horse has taught me that what I do matters a lot more than what I say and what I say MUST be connected to what I do, and I don't think this is any different than with people. The difference is, people can understand what I say and if I say something that is disconnected from what I am doing, they can judge me for it. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">In a place and time where people throw words around like healing balm and gyuto knives all at once, perhaps we would do well to hold our tongue and consider a different way of understanding one another. I think it would do all church leaders some good to connect with someone who truly understands the equine species and learn a little of what it means to work with a horse. Who knows? It just might do wonders for the church. Maybe even miracles.</span><br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-33124676861595749142014-03-02T22:54:00.002-08:002014-03-02T22:55:15.358-08:00I lost my sister and two sweet little nieces on Friday when the fifth wheel they were living in caught fire early in the morning. They were so loved and are so missed.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-34272558350749717112013-07-27T09:41:00.001-07:002014-06-27T22:51:19.199-07:00The dilemma of Quaker time<div class="p1">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEeDJU4lvvNkwQ6hT9np6VhMzfi-1vGyyrKbONcIU49DbcsFu8wA_pR5O9jW8WjhfXR0w8og_WRgAa5ewgCQvAaWg_slB50XjBXN0524rJnUjaLY1k8JuucJphOwVDYlIy6XWKNTjbk-k/s1600/quaker-logo.gif" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEeDJU4lvvNkwQ6hT9np6VhMzfi-1vGyyrKbONcIU49DbcsFu8wA_pR5O9jW8WjhfXR0w8og_WRgAa5ewgCQvAaWg_slB50XjBXN0524rJnUjaLY1k8JuucJphOwVDYlIy6XWKNTjbk-k/s1600/quaker-logo.gif" /></a><span class="s1">Quakers have a lot of terminology that can be overwhelming to convinced Quakers. It can be daunting even for birthright Quakers.<span style="font-size: xx-small;">1</span> </span>See what I mean? We have our own terms for all kinds of things such as the Inner Light, after the manner of Friends, weighty Friend, open worship, recording, meeting house, and so many others, not to mention our many acronyms. But a new term was introduced to me this week that I really like. After one of the evening services at yearly meeting this week, the young adults invited the board of elders to come and listen to a great discussion that didn’t end until nearly midnight. I was tired and still had to drive the forty minutes back to Forest Grove on entirely unlit backroads with someone else’s car. On my way out, I mentioned to a friend to say a little prayer for safety and he responded, “Take your time--Quaker time.” Immediately understanding the joke, I laughed. But as I thought about it more, I considered the pithiness of that phrase, and I have decided it’s time to introduce this term into the lexicon of Quaker vocabulary.</div>
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<span class="s1">Quaker time means taking the time you need to do something well and without unnecessary rush. More like the kairos of time versus the kronos, to use old Greek examples. In short, and slightly in jest, it means we take a long time to make decisions. Indeed, one of my friends earlier this week compared Quaker decision making to the Ents of Lord of the Rings lore. I had to agree and responded, “That is so true!” And then went on to quote Lord of the Rings because it’s always worth lingering on for just a little bit longer.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">In Quaker tradition, we don’t vote on church decisions. Church-wide decisions, local or yearly meeting level, are reached by consensus.<span style="font-size: xx-small;">2</span> </span>This is no longer the case for all Quakers today, but it is still the way of doing business for many yearly meetings, including mine.</div>
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<span class="s1">This year, my yearly meeting has come to discover that we as a whole are not in unity over our feelings and understanding around homosexuality. It was known that one church in particular held a different view than our conservative Faith and Practice statement, but that was about it until the conversation was broken wide open last year due to an outside concern from a mixed group of Quakers and non-Quakers. When that portion of our Faith and Practice was brought to the floor of the business meeting this year, we discovered great disunity throughout our yearly meeting and recognized a need to have much longer conversations about it, especially with our local meetings.<span style="font-size: xx-small;">3</span> </span>Because we don’t want <a href="http://www.friendsjournal.org/thomas-hamm-on-division-in-indiana/"><span class="s2">a divide</span></a> to happen, and because we recognize that God values time, too, that minds can’t be pushed to change, we know time is our only option.</div>
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<span class="s1">And yet, even if the earth should open up in front of us and mountains plunge into the depths of the sea, we fear nothing. Even if the earth’s waters rage and foam and the mountains tumble with its heaving, we fear nothing. I look into my fears and then I look at this psalm. I place these two side by side and I see my fears withering into an insignificant dust. I suppose this is the power of scripture. In the city of God, the dwelling of the Most High, through which a river flows, God is in its midst, it will never fall--God will help it at daybreak. The New Revised Standard reads, “God is in the midst of the city; it shall not be moved,” recalling, for me, Maya Angelou’s words in “Our Grandmothers,” where the black women of old declare, “We shall not, we shall not be moved.” Though nations are in turmoil and empires crumble, God’s voice resounds, and it melts the earth. Infused with the Holy Spirit, scripture contains great power. I’m not sure how I forget that sometimes.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">There are a lot of things I know about God, but there are fewer things I understand--not cognitively, but understand in the depths of my soul where it soaks into the roots of my faith and carries me into a deeper kind of knowledge and a richer day. <i>That</i> kind of understanding. Fear is a strange thing. Not the great fears which we ought to be wary of, but that nagging worry that can take the joy from everyday moments. I am not a fear ridden person, but my desire to not fail others can on occasion be paralyzing, those times when I seem to forget there is a God whose voice melts the earth, because of whom I need have no fear. But in those moments when I remember to be still and know that God is God, I see my fears for what they really are: lies. And weak lies at that. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">We live in a culture that tells us to conquer our fears, to let them go, to free ourselves of them. The church tends to be no different. But fear has a way of creeping up on you when your defenses are down. I may think I’ve set it down, but it follows me anyway, sometimes <i>because</i> I think I’ve conquered them. And yet, when I hold it up to the truth of scripture, it disintegrates. Its weak foundation and lack of roots is exposed. Up against this psalm, fear is as threatening as a mouse to a wildcat, and so I’m thinking what if this week, instead of trying to put down my fear, to leave it somewhere else, I take the scripture with me. I will hold it in my heart, and I will be still. In the light of the Holy Spirit, fear is powerless. In a context that has outlived us all, a truth that has proven more real and constant than the air we breathe, fear has no home. Fear can try it’s hardest, but we shall not, we shall not be moved.</span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-40359478122417989182013-07-19T22:23:00.002-07:002013-07-19T22:54:27.998-07:00Family<div class="p1">
Every year, the evangelical Friends churches of the northwest come together in a mass of meetings, discussions, meals, and worship services for one week in July.* Each year that I’m able to go, I get really excited, as in REALLY excited. It is, in fact, ridiculous. Firstly, I love coming back to my alma mater, which I wasn’t particularly enraptured by when I left with my cap and gown in 2003. For another, I am always taken by the quaintness of this little town, even though on any other week I would never actually want to live there again. But I'll take it all, because really, at its heart, it's an annual family reunion, and I can not wait to see the people I dearly love. </div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">1. Our Yearly Meeting is the equivalent of most denominations’ understanding of a Conference. Everyone is invited to the annual sessions, though, not just the official church leadership. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;">2. The term Friends and Quakers mean the same thing; I use them interchangeably. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;">3. Quakers don’t have a thick, bound copy of “The Book of Discipline” like the United Methodists. Historically, Quakers didn’t approve of heavy-set doctrine, so each yearly meeting creates its own Faith and Practice document (ours is around 90 or so pages) which remains in constant revision, as we don’t believe such things are set in stone.</span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-4379893559648176472013-04-19T20:12:00.001-07:002013-04-19T20:21:54.346-07:00With Liberty and Justice for All<br />
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<li class="li1"><span class="s1">I love that I can vote as a woman, and I love that I don’t fear for my life on voting day. In fact, I really enjoy the ability to vote by mail in my state, because I’m lazy that way.</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">I have the constitutional right--as in, it’s written IN THE CONSTITUTION of my country--to practice my religion without fear of abduction, torture, or death, and to not have that religion dictated by the government. It is not lost on me how precious that freedom is.</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">I can speak what I believe about an idea and authorities won’t come to my door and arrest me. Freedom of Speech is sometimes misused, but it is a wonderful thing, regardless.</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">Especially important, I can outright disagree with my government and I have the constitutional right to do that, too.</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">As a woman, I am a full citizen of my country. I have the legal right to drive, work, vote, speak out in public, disagree with men, have sex without being married (even if I don’t choose to partake in that right), and dress how I choose.</span></li>
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<li class="li1"><span class="s1">I am so thankful for programs like AmeriCorps which was the only place that gave me employment that will actually get me somewhere in life and that is really fun all at the same time.</span></li>
<li class="li1"><span class="s1">I believe, as Americans, if we actually actively joined together, we really could make a difference in our government. The problem if our rich, power-hungry congress is only there because we the people keep letting them back in.</span></li>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-24508098137048777392013-01-27T21:40:00.002-08:002013-01-27T21:41:20.527-08:00A Little January<br />
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<span class="s1">Except when I forget, and the weight of the world IS on my shoulders, and I can’t bear the heaviness of the world’s aches and cries and tears. And when conflict flares up in my life, I worry and worry. I let it eat at me like a voracious virus until it invades my mind and sculpts visions of a horrid future, slowly nibbling away at my sanity and kindness. I panic when I have to depend on people and they aren’t following through on my schedule. I believe the worst in some situations instead of the best, and I wonder if I’m wrong when I believe the best instead of the worst. I am not a pessimist, but I am an idealist, and sometimes idealists make pretty impressive pessimists, the worst kind, really. </span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-11028155567313176642012-10-14T21:32:00.000-07:002012-10-14T21:32:10.714-07:00The Greatest Job
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<span class="s1">It’s hard to describe what my job is exposing me to. In any given moment I am taking in profuse amounts of new information and experiences. It is the best kind of schooling for me. Hands-on, experiential, moment by moment--at times it feels like I have to shoot first and ask questions later (to use an unfortunately analogy). </span></div>
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<span class="s1">As the AmeriCorps member, I am thrown into an atmosphere full of people who spent at least four years learning about their jobs before getting into them, and in many cases who have amassed years and years of on-the-job training and research and even added months or years of coursework for a graduate degree. I have walked into a world of PBIS, ERI, EBIS, ELD, CIT, Easy CBM, OAKS with more and more acronyms piling up constantly. It’s worse than church. I walk into meetings and lead tutoring sessions with four and a half years of training in English literature, five years of seminary training, and absolutely no training in public elementary education. Time after time, day after day I feel like I’m applying what I’m learning and then being taught it. My job is constantly busy, often overwhelming, very demanding of my mental creativity, and sometimes stressful.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Under AmeriCorps, I work as a member of Partnerships for Student Achievement. Twenty of us work in elementary and high schools in four different school districts spread around Washington County (bordering the west end of Portland’s Multnomah County). While we do generally the same thing, the specifics are catered to each district and each school. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">We all work in Title I schools. Title I was created in 1965, and because I’m too lazy to try and summarize or paraphrase it, I will simply quote the Title I purpose in its entirety: “The purpose of this title is to ensure that all children have a fair, equal, and significant opportunity to obtain a high-quality education and reach, at a minimum, proficiency on challenging State academic achievement standards and state academic assessments.” This is followed by a twelve part list of how this is accomplished. In short, Title I exists in schools with a high percentage of low socio-economic students and under-performing test scores, especially where there is an achievement gap. The achievement gap, if you don’t know (I didn’t until I started this job) is the performance gap between ethnic groups/races and/or economic levels. Title I is what gives schools the budget to do free and reduced-price lunches and to do special academic interventions. Many Title I schools have full-time certified Title I teachers.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">These days I am learning how different it is to be poor because my current situation makes it so versus being poor because your family has never been anything other than poor. At my good friend and mentor’s suggestion, I recently picked up a book called <i>A Framework for Understanding Poverty</i>. The author, Ruby Payne, makes a clear distinction between situational poverty and generational poverty. Consider a few of these statements from her quiz, “Could you survive in poverty?” She asks the reader to check off each item we understand how to do:</span></div>
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<span class="s1">1. I know which churches and sections of town have the best rummage sales; 2. I know which grocery stores’ garbage bins can be accessed for thrown-away food; 3. I know how to get someone out of jail; 4. I know how to get a gun, even if I have a police record; 5. I know how to live without a checking account; 6. I know how to live without electricity and a phone; 7. I know how to move in half a day.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Now compare this to the middle class quiz: 1. I know how to properly set a table; 3. I know which stores are most likely to carry the clothing brands my family wears; 4. I talk to my children about going to college; 5. I understand the difference among the principal, interest, and escrow statements on my house payment; 6. I know how to get a library card; 7. I repair items in my house almost immediately when they break--or know a repair service and call it.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">(She also has a “Could you survive in wealth?” quiz which includes items like, “I fly in my own plane, the company plane, or the Concorde.” I can’t even comprehend this kind of life.)</span></div>
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<span class="s1">At my school, approximately 78% of our students are on free or reduced lunch. Many of them partake in our free breakfast option every morning. We have a high number of children who read and do math well below their grade level, and a number of kids on behavioral plans. Starting last year, my school began offering our backpack program. Parents who qualify for free or reduced lunch can sign their child up to receive a weekend backpack of meals and snacks for their child. Currently, we have almost 30 students taking backpacks home. Many of these students fall on the despairing side of the achievement gap. The connection between poverty and low achievement levels can not be overlooked. I have very few financial resources, but my other resources are bountiful and gracious. I have emotional support, spiritual support, mental support, good health, fantastic role models, and what Ruby Payne labels “knowledge of middle-class hidden rules.” I watch some of our children walk through the school doors every day looking like the weight of the world is on their shoulders. Many of them have very few, if any, of these supports. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">But these kids are impressive. Against all odds, they keep coming to school and they keep learning. They struggle. And fighting against the never ending machine of poverty coupled with ambitious public school budget cuts can feel crushing on those who work daily with these children.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">I had given up on the public school system. Someday when I had kids, I knew the only reason they would ever be in public school is if I couldn’t afford a good private school. All I ever heard in the news was about failing test-scores and strikes and impossible budget deficits. One of the school districts a couple of my fellow PSA members work in cut well over 200 teachers over the summer. When I heard that number, I just about choked. It was all over the news. The problems of the public school system were too vast and too wrapped up in hierarchy, out-of-date tradition, and government red tape for any difference to really be made, so I had washed my hands of it.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">And then I got a job working here, and that vast public school system became local and began to have little six-year-old names and seven-year-old smiles and five-year-old stories and started giving me hugs; their faces would light up when they saw me. The public school system became human. Giving up on this system became giving up on the 290 little faces I see every day.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">These kids make this job amazing. It’s a taxing job and the end of the week is welcoming, but I always look forward to seeing the kids walk through the door on Monday morning. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">Despite maddening budget shortfalls and nearly unmanageable class sizes, the teachers and other staff at my school take it in stride and are always far more positive than they by all rights should be. There is not one teacher here whose class I would not want my child in. They are each unique in their own style of teaching, and they are all fantastic at what they do. I love to walk into their classrooms and see how their personalities shape their classroom structure and style. It is teaching me that there is no one ideal way to teach, and I am learning the importance of having a variety of personality types in one place. They stick together. They rely on each other and learn from one another. I hear stories from some of my AmeriCorps co-workers who won’t eat in their staff lunch rooms because the atmosphere is exceptionally negative. I’ve never once felt discouraged or uncomfortable in our staff lounge. Every teacher is glad to have me there and they are always willing to answer my questions.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">This week, I begin my after-school programs. I was originally slated to begin both of them, but I had to push one back another week after failing to consider the time it would take for the letter I’m sending home to first be translated into Spanish. On Thursday, I will begin a knitting club, and the following Monday, I’ll start a photography club. I get the joy of putting my ideas into action and developing projects and strategies for these clubs, but unfortunately the stress of having no budget to go along with them. I am searching heavily for donations, but there is still a lot of work to be done. But this is how it goes, right? Some things come easily and other things we have to fight for; these often come wrapped in the same box. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">I don’t know what is going to come of this year. I don’t know if I’ll stick around for another year, if the school will even want me, or if I’ll end up moving on to new things. I don’t know if I’ll succeed in finding what I need for the programs I’m running. And I don’t know if my principal will even be around at the end of the year considering how hard the district runs her into the ground every day with a workload crazier than any I’ve ever seen, and considering who some of my friends are, that is saying a lot. I don’t know if I will still enjoy this job by the time June rolls around. But right now, I love it. My finances are miserably tight and most of my friends still live too far away for me to see, but despite that, I am having the time of my life. I am so blessed, and I love my job!</span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-10190842345730972382012-10-09T22:50:00.001-07:002012-10-09T22:50:27.040-07:00Whirlwind
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<span class="s1">My life has never been so busy. It’s stressful and overwhelming and I absolutely love it. Of the twenty schools who have Partnership for Student Achievement AmeriCorps members, mine is one of the best at utilizing my position. I love it. I feel both needed and wanted. I’m always on the move, always working on something. Right now, I am preparing for my extended day activities to begin. It is time-consuming, and trying to get donations of supplies is an overwhelming task for me. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">It has left me little time to reflect. I think everyday about writing on this blog, but the space hasn’t come yet to unpack my life. I haven’t even finished unpacking all my actual stuff. </span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-29246850094366889972012-09-11T22:09:00.002-07:002012-09-11T22:23:23.075-07:00Remembering schoolMy new job is pulling up every memory I have of elementary school, particularly the earlier years. A few years ago I wrote a poem about the Kindergarten memory I will never forget. I thought, today, I would post it. I think I might also write a letter to my first grade teacher. <br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">October 20, 2009</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; font-style: italic; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">revised October 28, 2009</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">We gathered on the carpet every day</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">to watch her read, or was it twice a week</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">(for how should I recall such old details?)</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">and cross-legged we sat enwrapped in awe</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">of words that painted worlds for little brains.</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">We whispered of the pictures we’d create</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">and watercolor with our fingertips.</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">Except that one day when the wall rang.</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">And when she picked the phone up off the hook</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">she wept at what came from the other end.</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">We sat so still with nothing much to say—</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">for we were only five.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">Turns out you died.</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">But I don’t recall your name</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">and I can’t call back your face</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">and I can see you in our class photo</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">but can’t point out which boy is you.</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">Cause what can we remember in the year</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">when we were five?</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: georgia; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22.399999618530273px;">Except for this—my Kindergarten memory.</span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-36419012685952558402012-09-09T08:05:00.000-07:002012-09-09T08:05:09.889-07:00Or notMy part 2 of the previous post was in process, but it got sidelined by a project with a deadline. And now, heavily into my new job, I'm just not going to get around to finishing it. Suffice it to say, it was more fantastic than expected to be at yearly meeting and I got to spend really amazing time with some great old friends and even run into people I haven't seen in years. It was a week I desperately needed, and one I'm so thankful for.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-29964555108102354452012-07-29T11:12:00.001-07:002012-07-31T19:37:34.565-07:00My Quaker Soul part 1On Tuesday, at 5:28am, I hopped onto my first of four buses that would make up my sunrise journey from Vancouver to Newberg. At 8:30, I stepped off the final bus and wandered on over to the business meeting going on in Bauman Auditorium on the George Fox Campus.<br />
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I have not been to yearly meeting in four years. In August of 2008, I packed up my car and drove 2,500 miles to central Kentucky for seminary. With that, I left behind the only kind of church I had ever known and I stumbled into a vast wilderness of baptists, methodists, christians (the restorative movement, not the general religion), baptists (did I say that already? There are SO many different types of baptists!), and countless others. When I finally found a church I decided to settle on, I ended up driving by nine other churches every Sunday before getting to mine. I had certainly landed in the Bible belt.<br />
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I loved that church, still do, but I longed for quiet. I longed for room in worship, moments of silence and stillness in transitions, prayers without musical soundtrack, and long spaces of communal silence and centering. Lexington has a local Friends meeting house, and I attended a few times. It was the friendliest group of people I met in Kentucky, and I loved it, but desiring a common denominator of faith in Jesus Christ drew me to the nearby Christian and Missionary Alliance church which I discovered because the pastor's wife was the campus pastor at Asbury. Even as I grew to love that church, I really grieved the lack of a church that understood how to marry distinctive Quaker ideology and disciplines with a Christocentric view of faith and practice. <br />
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By a landslide, the United Methodist church is the most represented denomination at Asbury Seminary. Other historically Wesleyan churches make up the next largest representations. As a Wesleyan/Holiness based school in the South it was a foreign world to me culturally and religiously. It turned out to be an impressively painful and incredibly healing and life-giving experience, but one of the things it taught me, or perhaps reiterated for me, was the reality that I am a Quaker in my soul. No matter where I live and what church I may be attending, I will always favor the Friends way of being, and I will always call myself a Quaker when people ask. <br />
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Asbury is not officially affiliated with any denomination. It is an institution controlled by a dusty hierarchy which has no real structure of accountability. In 2008, I arrived at a school that was in the midst of administrative turmoil that had reverberated to every sector Asbury touched and had left nothing unscathed. A president had resigned on the day of orientation the year before, and the divisive weeks and months around that event had left a spirit of contention on the campus so clear that I felt it even a year later. Far beyond the time it should have taken, Asbury finally found a new president in the Spring of 2009, and when he and his family began work in July, the school seemed to exhale for the first time in a few of years and was finally able to really heal.<br />
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For the first time in my life I was able to place my experiences with George Fox University, where I had received my undergraduate degree and begun my seminary degree, and with the Northwest Yearly Meeting, where I was born and raised, in a larger context. We college students liked to complain about Fox, and there are certainly things to complain about, but after moving, I saw what the accountability of George Fox with the yearly meeting meant and why it mattered. I thought about who that accountability really was to--not to the paid administrative powers that be in the yearly meeting, but to every member of the yearly meeting, because Quakers believe all have a voice that matters. I imagined the uproar in the July yearly meeting business meetings, where everyone is encouraged to attend, every voice is given the chance to be heard, and no decision is made until common ground and consensus is reached, if this had happened at George Fox. I began to understand in a deep way the spiritual wisdom of the Quaker way of business and why it's necessary, and I discovered the sandy foundation of power without accountability.<br />
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Being at Asbury taught me just how foreign my common Quaker understandings and practices are to the greater protestant world. Seminary was the first time I saw discernment discussed as an individual practice. I couldn't understand the idea of healthy personal discernment without a stronger value on community discernment. I still don't believe it's possible. And the idea of having a rich faith without practicing bread and wine/juice communion was absolutely incomprehensible to some. My world was as strange to many there as their's was to me. <br />
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Learning about the different facets of Christianity was eye opening for me. Attending a capital "H" Holiness school while coming from a background that pre-dated it exposed me to what it must be like when outsiders come into the Friends church which is full of practices, structure, and language that is unknown to people outside of the Friends world. In the end, I found myself simply wanting to teach everyone the value of Quaker theology (because its Biblical basis makes it really more than just an ideology), and I admit I delighted in telling people that Richard Foster was a Quaker and had, in fact, pastored my church at one time, albeit before I was born.<br />
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I left Oregon with no plans of coming back. The only reason I did was because I ran out of money after graduation. I came back kicking and screaming, really. On my return, I wanted to try to plug into a new church, make my own new start. I found a place in Portland, but after a few months I discovered no matter where I tried, I craved my Quaker worship. I ended up getting a job that worked me on most Sundays, but on my first Sunday off, I gave into my need for some good Quaker silence and fellowship and made quite the nutty trek via bicycle and bus to one of the Northwest Yearly Meeting churches in Portland. Even though I had never been there before, it was like finally coming home. My soul really rested for perhaps the first time in nearly four years. I love my Methodist friends, my Catholic family members, my second home CMA folks, among others, and I find great value in their traditions, but my heart will always be with my yearly meeting Friends. <br />
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This past week, walking up River Street heading to my first business meeting since 2008 was a homecoming I hadn't realized I had longed so much for.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-54712866947722494762012-06-17T23:52:00.001-07:002012-10-15T23:13:08.494-07:00Sunday, June 17Today:<br />
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Rodney King died at age 47.<br />
Unofficial tallies declared the muslim brotherhood presidential candidate the winner in Egypt.<br />
Portlanders marched for equality and gay pride while many others watched.<br />
At least 21 people died in church bombings and countless wounded in Nigeria.<br />
It's Father's Day.<br />
A man was rescued this morning after clinging to a cliff all night after a kayaking accident.<br />
Justin Bieber won a Canadian music award.<br />
Madagascar 3 was the top selling movie.<br />
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Do you ever wonder what is happening all around the world at the same exact second? You're drinking coffee. Someone else is hiking up Mt. McKinley. A child is sleeping after a long day walking miles to gather water. A young woman is in between "customers," working the line in the red-light district in east India. Countless families are sitting down at the table for dinner. Countless others are scrounging on their own. A baby was born, a child just died, an elderly woman has just passed away after a full life. <br />
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<span class="s1">A number of David's psalms were written in the midst of what, for David, was a great unknown. Wandering in the wilderness, running from Saul, David had no idea how long he would be stuck out there hiding and fighting. Scholars have estimated David drifted around in the mediterranean wilderness for fifteen to twenty years. Anointed by a prophet as a youth, appointed musician to the king, and defeater of Goliath and the Philistines, David was run out of town and spent years without a place to call home. Undoubtedly, it must have felt like it was never-ending. His psalms give us a glimpse into just how hard it must have been to wait without end.</span><br />
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<span class="s1">Waiting is a necessity of building maturity, but its clash with human nature makes it frustrating and its entirely foreign relationship with American culture makes it maddening. Whether we're waiting to get better from an illness, waiting for our child or brother or sister to get a clue, waiting for an important phone call, or waiting for our life to start, the process (and it is a constant process) can make us question our very existence. Waiting is frustrating, though, not primarily because of the delay in getting what you want. It is frustrating precisely because we are always aware of the lingering possibility and fear that we could be waiting forever.</span><br />
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<span class="s1">The piece of the process that makes us (or at least me) want to, at times, rip our hair out is that foggy state of limbo--that blind walk through the wilderness with no map to guide us. I wonder if David ever questioned his call to be king, if he had moments where he thought maybe he had it wrong. As years continued to pass by and he kept trudging around the untamed land, day after day, week after week, year after year, his vision must have blurred now and then.</span><br />
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<span class="s1">Some time ago I read the quote, "Everything will be all right in the end. If it's not all right, it's not the end." David's story is great evidence of that. Of course, David didn't have a fairy tale ending. He slept with another man's wife, killed that man who had been very loyal to him in order to cover his own ass when consequences of his bad choice spiraled out of his control, and his son, Absalom, ran him out of town. But the story of his wilderness wanderings did come to a close and after years of wondering if Saul was <i>ever</i> going to die, David finally became king.</span><br />
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<span class="s1">In our fast-paced, technology driven culture, our theology around waiting is poor at best. For the past year I have been waiting for my life. I'm waiting to have my independence back, waiting for a job that I'm passionate about and that gives me good experience while paying me enough to live and cover all my bills every month. In the meantime, I work a job I have no passion for, am deferring a number of student loans, and I live with my parents in a very tiny house. It's less than perfect, to understate it, and I find myself constantly wondering what God is doing and where God is. As I think about that I realize just how fickle my faith is. God is great when I love my life but when the fog roles in and I can't see where I'm going, I think maybe I don't really understand God at all. And then I see the inconsistency and wonder just what do I base my faith on, anyway? I want to have that blind faith that fully trusts no matter what my circumstances are.</span><br />
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<span class="s1">But wonder like that doesn't come around much anymore as an adult. Life gets heavy and full of responsibilities, both personal and community. The sadness of the world's depths of darkness weighs on us. Wonder doesn't come in giddy energy. Instead, I think as we get older and busier and more full of things to know, wonders come in the small moments, in the whispers, in the split seconds, in the every day, little spaces of goodness and beauty. Sometimes we have to look for them. Sometimes they look for us. But now and then they just show up on the train with their own wonder to share and remind us why it's good to always know children and to once in a while be a little giddy. When we see the world through their eyes, we remember it is spectacular. </span><br />
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<span class="s1">Being beautiful isn’t about what you wear or about making sure you burn more calories every day than you eat. Living a life that is floating somewhere in Limbo is teaching me a few things about the depth and meaning of beauty. Yesterday, in a conversation about this strange land of foggy limbo I’m in, a friend said to me, “This is just a season.” It is good to be reminded of that, but at the same time I responded, “I would just like to know when this season is going to end.” Sometimes it is hard for me to see the beauty in life. I can dress so that I look really good, but I have realized that has no bearing on feeling beautiful--feeling good about myself, yes, but not feeling beautiful. Perhaps it’s because I am me or perhaps it’s because I’m 30 and not 21 anymore, but in my life beauty has become something that strikes my heart. Beauty has a depth and a meaning so much better than what the world will have me believe, and it can be seen in little moments, not just epic booms. Beauty has to be found in little things I see each day. </span>The days in which I’m most distressed about my life are days in which I have blocked the ability to see beautiful things, or maybe a better way to say that is the ability to see things beautifully. </div>
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<span class="s1">Today, I’m going out to Portland. I’m going to go to Stumptown where I will enjoy the beauty of getting around when I can’t afford a car (because before this I lived in a place where that was very difficult), and where I will enjoy the beauty of a place that values a prize-winning cup of coffee even more so than mass profit. They really do make the best mocha I have ever had. And then I will go meet up with a friend. Sometimes I get bored in Portland, because overall, it is not new for me, and I want a new adventure, but the truth is that Portland is an amazing city. It is beautiful to look at. You never know what kind of people you will see on the street and on the bus. Its unique character shines in the funky local business that can be found everywhere, not the least of which is the most amazing bookstore in the world. So today, instead of being disappointed that I’m bumming around Portland, I will look for something interesting, something beautiful. I may still be a little disappointed, but I will not let it rule my day.</span></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-78497414675723530912012-04-17T18:06:00.000-07:002012-04-17T18:06:21.528-07:00April 17<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfkjEIQq8UNupaGqFJ9qGsnrQe7MftNjkw5RARtOU7VYillPL9mOV0pZo3i_yzfjeazPQ96_s4FaZ9Td7FSpuG_DGFQFbgqb_JcwW2lxuwLyzoJe-Ip_fTvLcC73l5XBqUS3KQeLOYS6E/s1600/airplane.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="133" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfkjEIQq8UNupaGqFJ9qGsnrQe7MftNjkw5RARtOU7VYillPL9mOV0pZo3i_yzfjeazPQ96_s4FaZ9Td7FSpuG_DGFQFbgqb_JcwW2lxuwLyzoJe-Ip_fTvLcC73l5XBqUS3KQeLOYS6E/s200/airplane.jpg" width="200" /></a></div><div class="p1"><span class="s1">Standing at the transit station today, I watched an airplane take off from the airport, soaring up and up into the sky. I dreamed to be on it. I have no idea where it was going, but I didn’t care. I just wanted to be flying somewhere, anywhere, far away. Just a little bit earlier, I sat on the MAX as it pulled into a stop and thought, I wish I were in a different city, a new city. The plane was so inviting. And then I turned around and saw my bus coming, which would simply take me into the next town. It was such a let down.</span></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-67414281375762524012012-04-10T00:01:00.001-07:002012-04-10T22:29:05.443-07:00What does it mean to be a woman?April 9<br />
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</span></div><div class="p2"><span class="s1"></span></div><div class="p1"><span class="s1">And yet, I found myself, today, believing someone else’s life was better than mine based largely on the fact that she is married and has children (really great children). It was so inherent that I didn’t even think about <i>why</i> I thought her life was better until I took a moment to consider it. The reason surprised me. And yet, maybe it didn’t. My friends who have children of their own, whether the children are six months or thirty years, speak about pregnancy, childbearing, and the emotional and physical ups and downs of parenting in profound ways that leave me in awe and starkly aware of the self-centeredness of my life. I feel, perhaps strangely, less like an adult, and, not so strangely (unfortunately), less like a woman. </span><br />
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</span></div><div class="p2"><span class="s1"></span></div><div class="p1"><span class="s1">That I would feel less like a woman is not really a surprise. The value of womanhood has been defined by numerous cultures, in many cases for thousands of years, by the ability to procreate. In some cultures in history, a woman who could not or did not have children held no purpose in society. Such an understanding has been long pervasive in the church, so much so that today it saturates the mind without even being overtly discussed. It simply permeates the air. </span><br />
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</span></div><div class="p2"><span class="s1"></span></div><div class="p1"><span class="s1">I don’t know what to do about this disconnect between what my head believes and what my heart feels. I don’t believe my life is any less valuable than this other person’s life. But I find, despite my own disapproval, that I do see my life as less worthy, and I’m at a loss with this, because it goes against everything I ever want to teach young women about where their worth comes from. </span><br />
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</span></div><div class="p2"><span class="s1"></span></div><div class="p1"><span class="s1">I’m not sure how this needs to change, but I know that it does. Perhaps first we need safe space where we can even begin to talk about it. There are too few safe spaces for women. It is worth the consideration. This whole discussion is.</span></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-60967542362291644642012-04-08T23:08:00.002-07:002012-04-08T23:08:33.317-07:00April 9<div class="p1"><span class="s1">I did not get to go to church today. It’s the first--and, I hope, only--Easter Sunday that has ever happened. Instead, I worked all day. But I am so happy to say that after three months of working on Sundays, I will finally get to do some church this week, because the place I had started going to is going to be doing Wednesday evening events here and there. I hate being unable to go to church. I’m so relieved have something to participate in again. </span><br />
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</span></div><div class="p2"><span class="s1"></span></div><div class="p1"><span class="s1">But that’s not to say today was a bust. Yesterday was a crazy day at work due to Easter brunch being served. That combined with people going out and going to families’ homes to eat made for a rather light work day today. And to top it off, it was sunny and in the 60s. I may not have been able to go out in it much, but it was just nice to have good sunlight streaming through the windows. Living in the Northwest makes people <i>very</i> thankful for the sun!</span></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-67557271736540613512012-03-25T09:15:00.000-07:002012-03-25T09:15:46.708-07:00picturemy niece turned six months old this month. :)<br />
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Today, I feel utterly miserable. Just being honest. While I would chalk part of that up to my current walk through a wilderness I can't figure out how to navigate, I think I can chalk a lot more of it up to the absolutely <i>miserable</i> weather we are having! In some parts of western Oregon it snowed quite a bit ("quite a bit" being relative) today; in other parts, it dusted. But here in Portland it was just freezing cold and raining the entire day. It has been dreary for the last week and a half straight with only a few days of sun preceding that, before which was another long stretch of cold misery, and it's killing my spirit . If we don't get some good sunshine soon, I'm going to waste away to a listless, soulless nothing. This kind of weather didn't used to bother me so much. These days, though, it makes me tired of simply existing.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-50931103380589021112012-03-06T11:22:00.000-08:002012-03-06T11:22:41.629-08:00March 6The other day, I was watching Adele's <i>Live at Royal Albert Hall</i>. It is brilliantly entertaining, and near the end, she sings a cover of "To Make You Feel My Love." <br />
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Life for me and for some of my communities is in a long and unknown process of flux and transition and a line from that song (a Bob Dylan original, I might add) is a perfect description of life these days.<br />
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"The winds of change are blowing wild and free."<br />
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I may expound on that later, but I'll leave it here for now.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4381764874545579492.post-90992812513659905792012-02-18T14:36:00.001-08:002012-02-29T21:27:54.863-08:00February 18, friendship<div style="text-align: left;"></div><div class="p1"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br />
</div><span class="s1">Sitting next to me on my desk is a dark grey stone that has written on it in black marker, "beloved beauty grace sb 2008." My friend, Sarah, gave this to me the morning I left for Kentucky. This stone travelled 2,500 miles with me to Wilmore. It was with me in my car accident and miraculously not thrown through a broken window and lost somewhere between the westbound and eastbound sides of I-64. It sat on my desk with me during my three emotional, difficult, beautiful, and very definitive years in seminary at Asbury (I think I even brought it with me for my three-month internship in Toronto), and then travelled the 2,500 miles back to Portland with me last summer. I cleaned off my desk today and there it was. It made me smile and made me ever so grateful for Sarah's gracious and beautiful friendship with me. I love my friends. They have profoundly changed my life.</span></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08448926428018051738noreply@blogger.com0